I’m not budging

Remember Dolly?

She’s my dog. The one that plays inside outside.

Time to mention one of the other traits she has. The ‘I’m not budging’ trait. It goes like this. We’re walking along, I’m admiring the sunrise, enjoying the solitude that comes with walking her before work and she’s trotting along at my side. It’s a perfectly normal dog walk; one that you see on any street in any town or village throughout the country.

Until Dolly stops. She’s not stopped to sniff anything, eat anything or because she’s tired. She’s just decided to stop. A bit of coaxing from me. “Come on Dolly, good girl.” Nothing. A bit of tugging on the lead from me. It’s met with resistance, the brakes are definitely on. More cajoling from me, this time with excited intonation (it’s what the dog trainers say, right?). “Good girl, let’s go! Come on!”

Still nothing. She’s sat down, big brown eyes staring right at me. Her neck rigidly set waiting for me to pull at her lead again. My pre-work schedule doesn’t have time for her shenanigans. I’ll be late if she doesn’t budge soon. So I raise my voice and pull on her lead. “Dolly, come ON.”

Still nothing. Just her will to stay put.I feel frustration welling, my temper and anxiety levels rising. I DO NOT HAVE TIME FOR THIS. We’ve gone from pleasant stroll, where I’m feeling great to be alive to this ridiculous impasse – in a matter of minutes.

The answer – as I’ve learned – is to wait for Dolly to get up and walk on, by herself. It doesn’t take that long either. Once I’ve stopped pleading and yelling and pulling, she decides quite quickly. We’re already on a course and she knows where we’re heading. My role is to enjoy the moment, breathe in the clean countryside air, admire what’s around me and use the precious time to think about what I can do next to get the best out the day ahead.

I’ve found it’s a useful lesson in communications too.

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2 thoughts on “I’m not budging

  1. Love the analogy. Just trying to think through how the regulator would respond if I told them I hadn’t achieved the agreed timescale, but not to worry as the staff will deliver in their own good time!

    That said, there is something about the natural rhythm of life isn’t there? Think Dolly is demonstrating that and maybe we should pay more heed to this in our working lives?

    Really interesting blogs, thank you

    Mark

    • Thanks Mark.

      You have a point about not waiting too long! I’m sure that too much patience could definitely be construed as inaction.

      For me, it’s about taking the time to reflect on how we can get through the journey together and not just banging the drum, repeatedly, with increasing volume.

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